Poop 'n' Pool, Pee 'n' Play

What's the first reaction that comes to mind when you have a new puppy, you're trying to get it house-broke, and it goes 'poo' behind the couch? Rub its nose in it, right? Well what do you do with your kids when they just refuse to potty sometimes, even though they've been potty-trained for over a year? I experienced two examples of this 'phenomenon' yesterday.
My wife and daughters, and a good friend of mine and his son, all went swimming. As you probably know, when kids get to playing and having fun they lose all track of anything else going on, including any alerts to possible bodily functions. Well my friend's little boy failed to inform him that he had to go 'poo' until it was too late. Of course the first instinct of a parent is to get upset and scold their kid because they spent so much time getting them potty-trained in the first place. However, he uses the same kind of parenting I do. Tell the kid "it's OK" and let mommy be the bad guy.
Later in the evening, my daughter and his son were playing at our house. We were in the living room and heard a short scream. My daughter came out of the room, holding herself and dancing. I knew what was next and how little time I had. I never even made it out of the chair before she gave up the fight to hold it in. This has happened a few times and it infuriates my wife. She forces her to wear her mistakes for a little bit to shame her into not doing it again. It may sound cruel but it worked very quickly to get her potty-trained initially. Again, my idea of parenting is to be the 'good guy'. When mommy left the room I told my daughter she wouldn't have to wear her wet panties and she could go back and play.
The funny thing is that boys and girls have different ways of dealing with 'potty time'. Little boys will just go ahead and do it and reap the consequences later. Little girls will wait until they are at the point of absolutely exploding, and then do a 'happy dance' while running to the nearest bathroom, ultimately not making it. I can't give my daughter too much grief over her little mistakes. My mother says I would be outside playing, pee my pants, run in and change clothes, and then go right back to playing. Must run in the family.
If you want help or want to hear some stories about other parents and their potty-training ventures visit Parenting.com.